THE MEDIA EFFECT
How many in the room have a child 5 years or younger…
So much has happened in the last 5 years.. mill
Since your child was born…
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Internet Users Increased to 1.7 billion increase of 82%
1 million new users every day – 10 new users every second…
1.7% Population growth and a 10% internet growth – internet audience is more broad today than its ever been…
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Boundaries are being broken every second…
Boundaries do not need to be broken within our families
We just seem to accept…
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A parents best defense is engagement not disengagement – Engagement in their children’s lives not their devices!
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Letting it take us places that we don’t want to go…
Devices have become psychological – with the power to not only change what we do but to change who we are!
People have even developed the skill of making eye contact while texting…
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Parents text and email while having dinner and breakfast while children complain that their parents do not give them attention… while these same children deny each other their full attention…
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TED TALK MARCH 2009 – Sherry Turkle CA
Being together while not being together…
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Setting our families up for trouble…
Alone Together…
Not only trouble with how we relate to one another, but also how we relate with ourselves… and our capacity for self reflection.
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We are teaching and empowering an entire generation to put aside genuine emotional engagement and personal reflection and embrace a world where sharing with others may be invasive but certainly not vulnerable…
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PERSONAL TRIP TO USA
This concept only really struck home for me when we moved 1000’s of miles from our family. We certainly enjoyed our families company and would spend many hours at their home. But while we were in the presence, we certainly were always present. Having moved to the USA the presence part was removed from our relationship and now we still held in our hands the same digital devices we had while sitting in their living room in Johannesburg, but we had lost the presence and it just was not the same… it was lonely.
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How much I missed their presence… but how little I had valued it while I had it.
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People want to be together but also elsewhere…connected in. The real world AND connected to wherever and whatever they can be connected to…
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But that allows us to hide from each other at the very time we are “connected” with each other.
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Conversation – it just takes too long, it take place in real time and you just cant control what you going to say or hear…
Photshoping images… we get to edit, we get to delate, apply a filter to who we really are…
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Protection and monitoring YES… But there is a much bigger element we need to deal with.
I would encourage you to ask the questions on how we stop the bad getting in…
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1 COR 15:33. PROV 13:20
Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for “bad company corrupts good character.”1 Cor 15:33
Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble. Prov. 13:20
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Yes we need to make sure our kids are protected from the bad company that the internet can bring,
But are we ourselves being bad alone together company?
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Our genuinely engaged company is our best defense and offense against the dangers of this digital world in our family.
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Millennial’s are the parents GENxer’s!
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It is not the devices or the monitoring software…
Its about us being present and together and involved and genuinely rearing our children.
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1 Timothy 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Romans 12:2
Stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you,[but be inwardly transformed by the Holy Spirit through a total reformation of how you think. This will empower you to discern God’s will as you live a beautiful life, satisfying and perfect in his eyes
Romans 12:9-21
9 Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good.
10 Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.
11 Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically.
12 Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.
13 When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality.
14 Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them.
15 Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.
16 Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all!
17 Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable.
18 Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.
19 Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD .
20 Instead, “If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.”
21 Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.
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We are on our devices just as much as they are…
Not saying we all have to become part of the 50 % of the world population who are not connected in any way…
Protect while they need protection
Release to the principles you have installed in them
What are you releasing them to?
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